Discovering the magic question
- I’m sure some of you have felt as overwhelmed as I have recently.
- I don’t know where to even start!
- I’ve spent a lot of time recently pondering where to begin every morning.
- The other day I had a great idea.
I asked Dan what two things he wanted me to do next. I told him I was struggling with what the next most important thing was.
He answered quickly, “Bake Christmas cookies and clear the pile of stuff I’ve had sitting in the hall for a looooooong time.”
- A long time ago this year I started the project of cleaning out things I no longer needed or wanted. That hallway became my dumping ground for things that had no home and might not get one.
- Then Matt and Bekah decided to get married quickly and everything got put on hold except the wedding.
- Anyway, here I am at the end of the year with piles everywhere and Christmas to prepare for.
The Magic Question
What would you like me to do next?
That magic question is not one that all of us can ask willingly. What if he asks me to do something I really don’t want to do? Do I have to do it, anyway?
Well, yes, and no. You can appeal. Discuss it with him – without manipulating – if you really want to do what he wants you to do next. As women, we all know how to “discuss” something with our husbands so they will give us the answer we want to hear.
I’ve done that and I would assume you’ve done that a few times too. But… there came a point when I wanted to please him. To bring him joy. To be a wife, he would be proud of. One that he would walk alongside blessed and grateful.
Asking Dan what his priorities for me has been wonderful.
I can just focus on his two suggestions and finished them up in a short time.
Having a place to begin was just what I needed.
Last night I asked him again. Once again he had two things he wanted me to focus on. Wrapping gifts (we’re having our family Christmas celebration on the 22) and sorting out things in our Christmas bins so we didn’t just pack up the bad with the good when we take the decorations down.
When I got up
- I knew exactly what I would do.
- Quiet time and coffee with the Lord. Wrap gifts. Start on those Christmas bins.
- It was so great bringing him onboard to overcome my overwhelm.
What this doesn’t mean
It doesn’t mean that it puts my routine work on hold. I still make meals, clean, write, etc. But I know what to focus on when my everyday tasks allow or between them.
I have a special treat to share with you. Lamplighter is one of our favorite sources for audiobooks. We own most of them. They sent this link out so anyone could listen to it. You will fall in love too.
I will review a new book of theirs in January so keep an eye out for that.
Meanwhile – have a great family listen. No kids at home – Dan and I enjoy these all by ourselves!
Praying you and yours have a very blessed day.
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