Can we Truly Claim Ignorance? Part 2 on Modesty

by Phyllis Sather on July 22, 2011

With summer and a heat wave we all face questions about staying cool while dressing modesty.

I didn’t intend to wait this long to post part II, but the days have slipped by so if you want a refresher on the first part you can find it here: Can We Truly Claim Ignorance? Part I

Our daughters want to dress fashionably, but modestly too.

On the other side of the coin, our sons face a season where young women wear less and less in public and this can cause them to stumble in their walk with the Lord.

I just spent several hours listening to YouTube videos on modesty. Both Christian young men and women made themselves very clear about their desire to be faithful in the areas of modesty and combating lust – yes, lust. Whether we want to admit it or not, when we as women dress or act immodestly it causes our brothers in the Lord to lust. Modesty and lust are heart issues for both men and women.

Ladies we need to lay down our desire to attract men with our bodies. Please notice, I didn’t say we had to lay down our desire to be attractive, just our desire to attract men with our bodies. There is a huge difference – a heart difference.

Here is a list of resources on this subject:

Wendy on Faith’s Firm Foundation has several excellent articles in her series on modesty.

Next Elizabeth Inning has a very down-to-earth teaching on modesty.  She tells it like it is which is how we often need to hear it.

Matt Boyer interview

Free to be Modest by Nancy Leigh DeMoss (article)

John Piper on The Purpose of Clothing

Wedding modesty has many good articles on modesty, plus the modesty survey as well.

In case you’re thinking this is just too much to do, let me share with you a story that just happened recently. Our family stopped at a fast food place for a burger. While the girls and I were ordering a man who was there with his teen-aged son came over to Dan and said, “Thank your daughters for dressing so modestly. My son and I really appreciate it.”

Scripture says in 1 Timothy 2:8-10 ESV

“I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.”

Let me end with a previous post of mine:

The Square

Where are you in this journey? What have you found helpful to either you, your daughters, or your sons? Leave a comment so we can all benefit.

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Phyllis July 23, 2011 at 11:05 AM

This is an issue that is very near to my heart. Helping your children learn to walk free in today’s culture is a daily challenge. As with any character trait our sinful hearts are bent in the direction of the world and we need to submit them to the Lord daily to in order to walk in the freedom Christ provides.


Wendy July 22, 2011 at 10:44 PM

Excellent thoughts on this timely topic. Thank you for telling it like it is, and challenging us. We need all the reminders and affirmation to do what’s right that we can get.

Thanks, too, for linking to my Series on Modesty. (Today I inadvertently caused some issues on my blog, which may have resulted in “page not found” being seen by some of your readers who came over to read more on modesty. I apologize. I have repaired the error. Please try again, if you encountered problems.)

Having been out to a restaurant today, but used to seeing modestly-dressed women, I was shocked (just as your husband reported, by the immodest dress I was forced to observe.

Continue to step out on tough subjects

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